by Daylle Deanna Schwartz
Ask yourself if you’d prefer—to be safe or happy? That doesn’t mean you can’t feel happy AND safe. But avoiding things that might bring you joy, in the name of safety, keeps you in a prison created by your mind. I was safe as a DoorMat. VERY safe! I did what others wanted and kept the peace at all costs. That safety left me very unhappy! When you always take the safe route, fear is your prison guard, and your excuses to not take risks or step outside your safety zone are the bars keeping you locked in.
We think of prison as a place to lock up criminals; keep bad people away from the rest of us. I personally think it’s criminal to make yourself a prisoner of fear. That doesn’t mean you need to risk everything. Or even a lot. But avoiding that which might bring you pleasure because you’re scared it won’t work out really does put you in prison. When I baby stepped out of DoorMatville, I remember the fear I felt. How could I live without people liking me since they might not if I said no or expressed my needs. What if I was alone?