by Aaron F. Steinberg, Romance Male Mirror

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We all know a couple that probably shouldn’t be together. These couples usually have problems that are beyond their mental or emotional grasp and are potentially unworkable. Here’s an example: a couple I know constantly fights because the guy always likes to flirt with girls, even while his girlfriend is right there. Of course, there is really no way to know why exactly he does this, but he does it incessantly even after his girlfriend begs him not to. This is obviously wrong. However, his girlfriend doesn’t break up with him.

After talking with her at length about this issue, there was one reason she cited regarding her staying in the relationship that really struck me. She told me that it was normal to have problems, and therefore his behavior was acceptable although blatantly inappropriate.

After listening to her talk, my mind was spinning. How could the fact that fighting is normal make this particular incident okay with her, when it certainly is not okay?