by Aaron F. Steinberg, Romance Male Mirror
It’s likely that everyone reading this article has either said to someone, or had someone say to you, “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” It’s become an incredibly common excuse to let someone down easy when we do not want to enter a relationship. By now, most people understand that the phrase: “I don’t want a relationship” means “I don’t want a relationship with you.” But it’s possible that the use of this phrase, and this idea in general, is slightly more complicated than meets the eye, because when we use it, it seems for the most part like we truly believe what we are saying. But of course, there are times in our lives when we genuinely do not want a relationship. So what does “I’m not looking for a relationship” really mean and what’s behind it?