Angela, 29, San Jose, CA
I have been single for the last year and a half, as I have been very busy with work and also needed time to heal from a bad past relationship. I was finally ready to date again and met this great guy, Mark, at a friend’s birthday party. We really hit it off and he asked me out the next day.
So far we have been on three official dates and have been talking on the phone a lot. He is a year younger than me, but says that he is ready for a serious relationship, wants to get married and have kids in the near future. That is perfect because I want the same.
I really like him, he is so sweet, kind and thoughtful, and I feel all the signs of true love around him. There is one problem. As we are getting to know each other more, we are also starting to know each other’s past. I haven’t told him that I’ve been married and divorced. The divorce became final six months ago, and my ex isn’t in my life, but I am still really afraid to scare Mark away. We have only known each other for a few weeks now and I am not sure when is the right time to drop this bomb. I want to be upfront with him but I don’t know if we’re ready to get so deep into the marriage conversation. However, I’m worried if I wait too long to tell him, he’s going to think it’s weird that I didn’t tell him sooner and that I’m trying to hide something. Have I waited too long already?